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Loving yourself has been grossly misunderstood.
It’s not about feeling good, as much as it is 𝘀𝗵𝗼𝘄𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘂𝗽 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿𝘀𝗲𝗹𝗳 𝘁𝗼 𝗽𝗮𝗿𝗲𝗻𝘁 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗮𝗱𝘃𝗶𝘀𝗲 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿𝘀𝗲𝗹𝗳 on what you must do to make your life better NOW and in the future.
For so long I fooled myself into thinking I was loving myself by not judging myself, so allowing myself to overeat and do things that ultimately sabotaged my success. That’s just coming from a place of weakness though, isn’t it?
But it seems when we have such big dreams, AND big parts of ourselves not ready for the responsibility AND we keep pushing forward and trying - our 𝘀𝗮𝗯𝗼𝘁𝗮𝗴𝗲 𝗻𝗲𝗲𝗱𝘀 𝘁𝗼 𝘀𝘁𝗲𝗽 𝗶𝗻 𝘁𝗼 𝘀𝗹𝗼𝘄 𝘂𝘀 𝗱𝗼𝘄𝗻 and stop us.
So looking back, I can see that I was desiring things I just wasn’t ready for. That did NOT feel safe at all….
And so I hid through gaining weight.
Now for others it might be something different.
But being overweight has been the single most painful experience I have personally gone through in my life - and I’ve been through it multiple times. I do NOT accept myself being overweight. I do NOT believe I’m ‘just as beautiful as when i’m thin’ and I do NOT believe that I am just as good overweight as when I am fit and healthy.
And doesn’t this go against everything we are told we have to believe when it comes to loving ourselves?
But for me, 𝗜 𝗸𝗻𝗼𝘄 𝘄𝗵𝗼 𝗜’𝗺 𝗺𝗲𝗮𝗻𝘁 𝘁𝗼 𝗯𝗲 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗜 𝗸𝗻𝗼𝘄 𝗜 𝗙𝗘𝗘𝗟 𝗮𝗺𝗮𝘇𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘄𝗵𝗲𝗻 𝗜𝗺 𝗳𝗶𝘁 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝘁𝘂𝗿𝗻𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗵𝗲𝗮𝗱𝘀, 𝘀𝗼 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝘀 𝗶𝘀 𝗷𝘂𝘀𝘁 𝘄𝗵𝗮𝘁’𝘀 𝘁𝗿𝘂𝗲 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝗠𝗘.
No wonder I’ve struggled so much.
On one hand allowing myself to gain the weight through lazy self love that wasn’t ultimately strong and Lov-ING…
While also needing to hide subconsciously because I was way too scared of getting hurt if and when I became successful like I saw inside…
And to my point - that the most painful thing for ME is exactly what my self sabotage chose to do to slow my roll down. It knew the exact pain point to press so I wouldn’t want to show up.
𝗦𝗼 𝗸𝗻𝗼𝘄 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝘀𝗮𝗯𝗼𝘁𝗮𝗴𝗲 𝗵𝗮𝘀 𝗮 𝗿𝗲𝗮𝘀𝗼𝗻. 𝗜𝘁 𝗶𝘀 𝘀𝗶𝗺𝗽𝗹𝘆 𝘁𝗿𝘆𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘁𝗼 𝗽𝗿𝗼𝘁𝗲𝗰𝘁 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝘂𝗻𝘁𝗶𝗹 𝘆𝗼𝘂’𝗿𝗲 𝗮𝗰𝘁𝘂𝗮𝗹𝗹𝘆 𝗿𝗲𝗮𝗱𝘆 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝘄𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝗰𝗮𝗹𝗹𝗲𝗱 𝘁𝗼 𝗱𝗲𝘀𝗶𝗿𝗲.
Even though I kept moving forward - it was so fucking PAINFUL over and over again….
Even as I got messages and videos from clients and followers I had never even heard of before, telling me how my work saved their lives, saved their marriages, launched their businesses and manifested money, relationships and so many things in their lives - I kept shrinking.
And fuck.
We all go through times like that.
But it doesn’t mean to has to last forever - 𝙄 𝙖𝙡𝙬𝙖𝙮𝙨 𝙠𝙣𝙚𝙬 𝙞𝙩 𝙬𝙖𝙨 𝙟𝙪𝙨𝙩 𝙩𝙚𝙢𝙥𝙤𝙧𝙖𝙧𝙮, 𝙖𝙨 𝙬𝙖𝙨 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙘𝙝𝙧𝙤𝙣𝙞𝙘 𝙙𝙞𝙨𝙚𝙖𝙨𝙚, 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙋𝙏𝙎𝘿, 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙖𝙣𝙭𝙞𝙚𝙩𝙮 𝙩𝙝𝙖𝙩 𝙄 𝙪𝙨𝙚𝙙 𝙩𝙤 𝙝𝙖𝙫𝙚 𝙩𝙤𝙧𝙢𝙚𝙣𝙩𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙢𝙚 - 𝙞𝙛 𝙄 𝙘𝙤𝙪𝙡𝙙 𝙘𝙝𝙖𝙣𝙜𝙚 𝙏𝙃𝘼𝙏 𝙬𝙝𝙞𝙘𝙝 𝙬𝙖𝙨 𝙢𝙚𝙖𝙣𝙩 𝙩𝙤 𝙗𝙚 𝙞𝙣𝙘𝙪𝙧𝙖𝙗𝙡𝙚, 𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙣 𝙛𝙤𝙧 𝙨𝙪𝙧𝙚 𝙄 𝙘𝙤𝙪𝙡𝙙 𝙘𝙝𝙖𝙣𝙜𝙚 𝙩𝙝𝙞𝙨 𝙩𝙤𝙤!
Well now I am coming through the other side.
I finally got control of my eating.
I finally got control of my weight.
I’m waking up thinner everyday…
Let go of a good 2 dress sizes almost…
Food cravings are minimal….
Feeling better about myself every single day!
AND Im not doing any calorie counting.
Not doing any restriction like before - except for what now comes naturally. So I never feel like I’m depriving myself anymore.
The basis is intermittent fasting and some longer water fasts too…
The Intermittent fasting for me is where I don’t eat in the morning and I go as long as I can before I eat anything.
9 times out of 10 I go past my first hunger pain which I call a false hunger…
But I don’t have a set time of when i can start eating.
Anyway, I do have some rules that are more guidelines - but going deep into that is beyond the scope of my point here lol! So feel free to message me to ask more on that I am happy to share what’s been working for me.
Now that something that has SWITCHED within me - I’ve changed.
𝗕𝘂𝘁 𝗶𝘁𝘀 𝗹𝗶𝗸𝗲 𝘄𝗮𝗸𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘂𝗽 𝗳𝗿𝗼𝗺 𝗮 𝗺𝘂𝗹𝘁𝗶 𝘆𝗲𝗮𝗿 𝗳𝘂𝗴𝘂𝗲 𝘀𝘁𝗮𝘁𝗲 𝗼𝗻𝗲 𝗱𝗮𝘆, where all of a sudden you’re COVERED in this full body disgusting fat suit, and you’re like WTF just happened and how did I allow this?
So that’s been a WEIRD experience.
I feel like this post is all about HOW COMPLEX we are as humans.
There is never really one easy answer - 𝘀𝗼𝗺𝗲𝘁𝗶𝗺𝗲𝘀 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗷𝘂𝘀𝘁 𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝗴𝗼𝗻𝗻𝗮 𝘀𝘁𝗿𝘂𝗴𝗴𝗹𝗲 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗻 𝗶𝘁 𝗰𝗹𝗶𝗰𝗸𝘀.
You still try the best you can - which sometimes isn’t very good at all - but the key for me, is to keep the fire alive inside always knowing that 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗴𝘀 𝘄𝗶𝗹𝗹 𝗮𝗯𝘀𝗼𝗹𝘂𝘁𝗲𝗹𝘆 𝘀𝗵𝗶𝗳𝘁 and change in a big way. That one day they will…
WHILE 𝗮𝘁 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝘀𝗮𝗺𝗲 𝘁𝗶𝗺𝗲 𝗺𝗮𝗸𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗺𝗶𝗰𝗿𝗼 𝘀𝗵𝗶𝗳𝘁𝘀 𝗱𝗮𝗶𝗹𝘆 - doing your inner work, learning to be kind to yourself, examining your beliefs, forgive yourself for when you do none of that for ages, and tap back into your vision…
Getting honest with yourself about what you really desire AND what you can actually back and get behind now - what actions you’re actualllyyyyyy willing to take nowwwwww and then getting out of your way and doing what you keep imagining inside to do.
𝗔𝗻𝗱 𝗮𝘀 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗸𝗲𝗲𝗽 𝗴𝗼𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘁𝗵𝗿𝗼𝘂𝗴𝗵 - 𝗲𝘃𝗲𝗻𝘁𝘂𝗮𝗹𝗹𝘆 𝘀𝗼𝗺𝗲𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗰𝗹𝗶𝗰𝗸𝘀.
You hear the right advice for the 10 thousands time and all of a sudden it clicks
You work with the right teacher and either during or MONTHS later, due to the work you did together, you get that click, that awe, that realization and knowing of what you can change and have to do instead…. And then you do it…
You start to realize that you actually ARE enough…
And that even if circumstances aren’t how you want them to be, you have the power to take action from where you are now because you know you are BETTER than your current results, and something clicks where YOU just change within.
𝘼𝙣𝙙 𝙩𝙝𝙞𝙨 𝙞𝙨 𝙬𝙝𝙖𝙩 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙞𝙣𝙣𝙚𝙧 𝙩𝙖𝙥𝙥𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙬𝙤𝙧𝙠 - 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙚𝙣𝙚𝙧𝙜𝙮 𝙖𝙡𝙘𝙝𝙚𝙢𝙮 𝙬𝙤𝙧𝙠 𝙄 𝙨𝙝𝙖𝙧𝙚 𝙩𝙝𝙖𝙩 𝙝𝙚𝙖𝙡𝙚𝙙 𝙢𝙚 𝙛𝙧𝙤𝙢 𝙞𝙢𝙢𝙚𝙣𝙨𝙚 𝙋𝙏𝙎𝘿 𝙏𝙧𝙖𝙪𝙢𝙖 𝙩𝙧𝙞𝙜𝙜𝙚𝙧𝙨, 𝙨𝙚𝙡𝙛 𝙘𝙤𝙣𝙛𝙞𝙙𝙚𝙣𝙘𝙚 𝙨𝙚𝙡𝙛 𝙬𝙤𝙧𝙩𝙝 𝙞𝙨𝙨𝙪𝙚𝙨 𝘾𝙃𝙍𝙊𝙉𝙄𝘾 𝘿𝙄𝙎𝙀𝘼𝙎𝙀 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙢𝙤𝙧𝙚 𝙘𝙤𝙢𝙚𝙨 𝙞𝙣…
As you continue to do it, and come back to this work over time - you start to see things differently.
The energy alchemy causes you take make different decisions and take NEW ACTIONS.
You change.
Just like I have.
𝗦𝗼 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗾𝘂𝗲𝘀𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻 𝗶𝘀: 𝗪𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗿𝗲𝗮𝗱𝘆 𝘁𝗼 𝗮𝗰𝘁𝘂𝗮𝗹𝗹𝗹𝘆𝘆𝘆𝘆𝘆 𝗰𝗵𝗮𝗻𝗴𝗲 𝗻𝗼𝘄? 𝗔𝗻𝗱 𝗺𝗼𝗿𝗲 𝘀𝗼, 𝘄𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝘄𝗶𝗹𝗹𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘁𝗼 𝗱𝗼 𝗮𝗯𝗼𝘂𝘁 𝗶𝘁?
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This 6 week program is a great launching point to see if you want to work with me further, which you most likely will - because every new level has the same old devil of fear coming back to haunt you.. So as we rise, we keep clearing the fear so we continue to move forward in positive and wonderful ways.
But even these 6 weeks alone will have a profound effect, freeing up trapped parts of you. Releasing fears and doubts that are so deep they come up as feelings that control you, instead of easy thoughts you can bat away…
𝗧𝗵𝗿𝗼𝘂𝗴𝗵 𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝘄𝗼𝗿𝗸 𝘁𝗼𝗴𝗲𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗿, 𝘄𝗲 𝘄𝗶𝗹𝗹 𝘀𝗵𝗲𝗱 𝗟𝗶𝗴𝗵𝘁 𝘂𝗽𝗼𝗻 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝘀𝗲 𝗽𝗹𝗮𝗰𝗲𝘀 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝘀𝗲𝘁 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗲𝗻𝗲𝗿𝗴𝘆, 𝗮𝗯𝗶𝗹𝗶𝘁𝘆 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗯𝗿𝗶𝗹𝗹𝗶𝗮𝗻𝗰𝗲 𝗙𝗥𝗘𝗘.
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Send me a message to know more, and let me know: what is it YOU ARE READY to change in your life now?
LOVE
Kai xo
